Insecurities can creep in on any aspect and in any stage of life. Whether an event in your early childhood marked you or a circumstance in your adult life scarred you, insecurity can hinder your ability to fully express yourself and instead encourage you to hide under a shell. But fear not, these barriers can be removed. Like the English poet William Ernest Henley wrote, become the master of your fate and the captain of your soul by recognizing and applying the power you have to control your thoughts and face your fears.
1 Speak Kindly to Yourself
“What to Say When you Talk To Yourself,” The idea that each one of us is programmed from birth on. But you have the power to give your mind the right directions to do the right thing. If you don’t, it will continue to respond to the negative programming that you’ve been giving it (possibly without even being aware of it).
“Tools for Personal Growth,” I suggest taking a rational approach to each problem you face so that you are no longer inhibited by debilitating fears or beliefs. To do so, try to avoid taking yourself too seriously and cultivate a healthy and humorous belief in yourself to help you overcome your need for acceptance and approval.
2 Don’t Let Failure Define You
Remember Helen Keller? Despite her great misfortune, she overcame her difficulties and made her way into the pages of history. Personal-success writer Napoleon Hill describes how “her entire life served as evidence that no one is ever defeated until defeat has been accepted as a reality.” Past failures don’t define you.
To break the barrier of self-doubt that can contribute to your feelings of insecurity, I recommend placing yourself in a vulnerable position. Breaking out of your “shell” requires letting go of past hurts (real or imagined, self-inflicted or inflicted by others) and moving on with your life. Remember this “without self-esteem, the only change is an exchange of masters; with it, there is no need for masters.”
3 Break Hurtful Habits
Another way to overcome your insecurity is by examining the habits and patterns that shape your day-to-day. Have you wondered “Why We Do What We Do in Life”. A cue, a routine and a reward. When a habit emerges, your brain is actually no longer fully participating in the making of your decisions.
Habits aren’t your destiny, but it takes work to break them. “Unless you deliberately fight a habit — unless you find new routines — the pattern will unfold automatically.” Understanding how your habits work and breaking them into its components can help you fiddle with them to eventually change them.
4 Be Assertive and Couragous
As with anything, practice makes perfect. I recommend practicing being assertive to help others see your worth. “Arouse the courage to take small steps in learning to experience success and overcoming your lack of belief in yourself. Once you experience success, you can build upon it to gain the courage to act out of a strong conviction in your self-goodness and self-worth.”
Take a look at the vicious cycles in your life, and focus on transforming them into virtuous cycles. If you open yourself up to the possibility of success and accomplishment, if you visualize or make a prophecy of winning at life, your energy is focused in the direction of overcoming your insecurity.
5 Be Consistent
Keep in mind the importance of being constant. It’s the cumulative force of your daily actions that shapes your character. In the words of my grandmother, “All external solutions are temporary. Without constant attention and effort, even the most exciting success breakthroughs run their course and eventually end up on our list of good ideas and good intentions.” Talk to yourself constantly in terms of self-esteem and self-worth, and eventually you can reprogram your thoughts and brain patterns to leave your insecure self behind.
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